Debate on sabaonline reminds me – from email archive


  • Bihar Anjuman


Reading email lectures on caste discrimination in matrimonial search reminds me of a peculiar but interesting encounter. According to one of my friend’s narrative, he declined a marriage proposal from Patna because he wanted to marry his daughter only in his district or in one or two of the adjacent districts (in north Bihar). He lives abroad where his daughter was brought up and she possesses a top rank professional qualification.  I wonder if one can call it any type of ism (like castism, regionalism or so).

My study suggests that one’s freedom to set parameters of social and individual compatibility in marriages can’t be curbed by fanatic lectures. It is only the holistic transformation of society that can eradicate undesirable practices and not the excessive focus on an individual social issue of this type.

Shakeel Ashraf